I think a lot of grief in social situations can be examined in this context. * Is someone in charge of something that they don’t want to be in charge of? * Is someone not in charge of something that they want to be in charge of? * Is there confusion about who is in charge of something? * Are you and others managing the weak spots of their in charge areas with competence? * Is someone feeling under-appreciated for the effort required to be in charge of something?